The first one is chocolate. Out of every 100 desires, probably 67 must be fulfilled by chocolate. However, it just leaves you wanting more. The happiness lasts only until the delicious texture of smooth cocoa lasts in your mouth. Happiness gained from fulfillment of desires is like this—fleeting. Before you know it, there is something else you need to do or get before you can say you’re happy. It’s an unending race! The secret is in making a subtle shift from eating chocolate to be happy to being happy and eating chocolate. Got it?
Would you like some strawberry next? They add a delightful pink wherever they are—the color of love. Girls are supposed to like pink by nature. Can we safely assume that it’s because they are so loving? Often, we are caught up in analyzing how much love we received from whom, and what’s more, this is judged by what gifts we received or what they did for us. This is totally conditional—our love for someone becomes conditional. The disadvantage is that our happiness is in someone else’s hands. Take charge of it yourself. Move through life asking yourself how much love you can give. In this giving, happiness is an inevitable side-effect.
Vanilla please! Nothing can fill your senses like the fragrance of pure vanilla extract. Otherwise it could take a night in the forest or a storm in the dessert to do the same. Our happiness is stimulated to a great extent by our senses and sensory perceptions. What this means is that we are looking for happiness outside. You really want to be happy? Start looking inside. Find your source. Then nothing can shake you.
In short, happiness is your nature; it grows in giving and is unshakeable when you know that YOU are the source.
Peace and happiness is what we are made up of!
- So the real quest for happiness is actually the quest towards our own inner self
If you turn your mind inward a little bit, and just observe what is happening inside you, you will always be happy. Unhappiness means you have gone away from Your Self. You have gotten caught up in the world outside of you. So take a step back, turn inward and look within, and then you find that ‘you are happiness‘.
It’s the Self or consciousness that always gives you happiness, like the Sun always gives you light. Can the Sun ever give you darkness, no! Similarly the Self always radiates happiness and energy. But when you move away from that, then your energy goes down and sadness wells up.
Broaden your vision
- and know that life is much bigger than the small events and situations that take place.
What robs you of your smile is unpleasant events; events which do not bring you comfort, or which appear to give you misery. But when you realize that you are much bigger than pleasure and pain, and you are much bigger than the events in your life, both pleasant or unpleasant, then the smile on your face will not vanish. Things come and fleet away. And everything that comes and goes has a purpose. A thorn and a soft rose petal, they both have their purpose.
In the world, some things happen the way you want, and some things don’t happen the way you want. Bundle it all and put it aside. Nothing should take away your happiness.
What overshadows your happiness is:
- ‘I want this & I want that’. Wanting something is what pushes happiness away.
Where the wanting and desires end, and the sharing begins, happiness is exactly there.
Whether a desire is fulfilled or not, just be happy. Don’t cling onto a desire, because whenever a desire is fulfilled, it leaves you in the same place that you were before the desire arose. And not all desires can be fulfilled. Some get fulfilled, some don’t.
The secret to happiness is in being without desires, and in focusing on how you can serve others. The more you serve, the more happiness you will get. Having this feeling, ‘I don’t want anything for myself, I am contented’, brings happiness.
When you give and contribute to people who need you more than you need anything else, that also gives you the strength to move through those moments when you cannot smile.
Memories is not happiness
- Happiness is that which is in the present.
In the world, people are either dreaming of happiness or remembering happiness. That is either being in the past or the future. But happiness is that which is in the present.
Many times you postpone your happiness until some perfect future date, but it never arrives. Be in the present. If you are happy now, the past will not torment you and the future will take care of itself. This is the art of living!
Remember one things:
- You are responsible for your own happiness. Come what may, whoever says whatsoever, keep yourself happy.
Be determined that: ‘I am not going to let my happiness be taken away by anybody! Make this determination today and see what happens. Nature will support you!
When you find happiness within yourself, you see that your happiness is unconditional.